The season of get-togethers is here. Last week we traveled home to Ohio and spent a whirlwind two days with his family, two days with mine. Tucked into every gap were lunches and dinners with far-flung friends.
Dan’s aunt’s splendid Thanksgiving table
Now back in California for the month before Christmas, we’re accumulating plans to meet and make merry, whether it’s a company gala at a bayside hotel or a tree-trimming party in someone’s apartment.
With all this getting together comes tons of talking. I recently read something (can’t remember where) that has stuck in my mind about the art of conversation. The writer claimed that conversation is less artful now than in the past because we have all been trained to express ourselves rather than exchange ideas. That to do your part in a good conversation, you should make more questions than statements.
Ever since, I’ve been paying more attention to my conversations. And it’s true! In fact, when people get close to debating ideas, they often back quickly away. Is that your experience?
So I want to start improving my part of the conversation. Sharing ideas with others is one of the true joys in life and I don’t want to let it slip.